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You’re absolutely correct, and it’s so easy to fall into the scorekeeping mindset. I’m sorry to say I wasted too much time and mental energy being resentful in my early years of motherhood.

Those men who measured their worth by their paycheck were missing something essential from Christ’s example. On the other side, so much of the online motherhood discourse at the moment specifically encourages scorekeeping, even in well-meaning Christian circles. The “mental load” and all that. It’s real, and spouses need to ask for help when they need it, but having a spirit of serving/approaching family needs as a team rather than keeping a ledger is such a difference.

The flip side of it, I think, is gratitude for your spouse. Notice the things they do for your family and express your appreciation. It goes a long way!

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