Wow - well said. As a Mom to 4 girls and 5 boys, ages 23 to 6 and all unmarried as of right now, I appreciate your advice and perspective. My husband and I see the change in marriages that has taken place over the past 25 to 50 years and it is sad. But God is still at work and if we trust Him first and foremost, He can take 2 broken people and meld them into an amazing force for good for each other, His Church and society and also be glorified through that union. But the enemy is opposed to all of that and has sought to destroy this basic unit of society. May our hearts be turned to Him as the Center and our marriages and families flow out of His centrality in our lives so that the watching world may see Jesus and glorified Him because of our relationships, despite our weaknesses and frailties! Thank you for some thought-inspiring words.
I read this and thought- “did someone plug 2001 era Doug Phillips/Vision Forum into AI to get this article?????” Can’t get into it here, but this article is a big yikes. So unbiblical!! Really recommend (other than the Bible) Phylicia Masonheimer on this topic for an accurate application of scripture….. also - my comment pointing out the above was apparently deleted, so there’s that.
Just don’t get married as a man. It is all risk and no accountability from the woman. She can just up and decide to leave on some vague whim while taking all your assets with her and leaving you with no access to your children but with all the child support payments
I would adjust this to say “don’t get married outside of a Catholic or Orthodox Church”. You need the additional guard of the capital C Church institution, Protestantism isn’t going to cut it in today’s society, the risk is too high.
My post for young men comes in the form of a more practical and less religious perspective, but my recommendations for moral, traditional women are linked to a religious faith and moral code or the world might pull them away.
I like what you write about getting to know the friends and influences. It's important.
I however think that it's essential that every partner (wife and husband) have the right to veto every high-stakes decision. In fact I encourage my partner to please stop me if I try to decide something for the two of us that will bring harm to us or the world.
If you marry a godly, competent woman you should encourage her to use her veto whenever needed. That will make you a better man and the fruit your marriage will wear will be a lot better because two people contributed evenly
Debatable - women are far more risk averse, and can be particularly unnecessarily anxious at times. Thus will veto at times when it’s completely inappropriate to do so. Also forces the question “who is the tiebreaker?” No tiebreaker, no movement.
I asked myself - “Am I preparing my daughter to leave and cleave?” I’m certainly doing my best, but not having this modeled for me, fee like I’m muddling through… we have a really open relationship where we can disagree and still be in relationship- which I am really grate for. Just wondering if I need to be doing more for my 20 something daughter.
I’m 27, no one ever taught me anything about relationships or virtue or God at all, I learnt for myself, but I had to go through the darkness and mud.
If you taught your daughter anything at all about virtue, self-improvement in Christ and courting, and try to prevent short-term relationships and time-wasting etc, then that’s better than what most people get. If she doesn’t listen at least she has something to think about after going through hell; like a lot of us have.
I wish someone told me how important marriage and family is in life and taught me about it. I don’t blame anyone or feel like a victim, I just recognise how beneficial education is from a young age.
If she’s 20 and you’re only just starting to teach about it, it’s probably too late for her to take it on board, but I don’t know all the details and circumstances.
Wow - well said. As a Mom to 4 girls and 5 boys, ages 23 to 6 and all unmarried as of right now, I appreciate your advice and perspective. My husband and I see the change in marriages that has taken place over the past 25 to 50 years and it is sad. But God is still at work and if we trust Him first and foremost, He can take 2 broken people and meld them into an amazing force for good for each other, His Church and society and also be glorified through that union. But the enemy is opposed to all of that and has sought to destroy this basic unit of society. May our hearts be turned to Him as the Center and our marriages and families flow out of His centrality in our lives so that the watching world may see Jesus and glorified Him because of our relationships, despite our weaknesses and frailties! Thank you for some thought-inspiring words.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
If I had found this advice long ago, it would have saved me much heartache.
This is gold bro. I pray some struggling young man reads this and makes the right decision.
Wish I was taught this years ago. Thank you.
No.
I read this and thought- “did someone plug 2001 era Doug Phillips/Vision Forum into AI to get this article?????” Can’t get into it here, but this article is a big yikes. So unbiblical!! Really recommend (other than the Bible) Phylicia Masonheimer on this topic for an accurate application of scripture….. also - my comment pointing out the above was apparently deleted, so there’s that.
Just don’t get married as a man. It is all risk and no accountability from the woman. She can just up and decide to leave on some vague whim while taking all your assets with her and leaving you with no access to your children but with all the child support payments
I would adjust this to say “don’t get married outside of a Catholic or Orthodox Church”. You need the additional guard of the capital C Church institution, Protestantism isn’t going to cut it in today’s society, the risk is too high.
Great post and great advice for young men. 🏆🏆🏆
My post for young men comes in the form of a more practical and less religious perspective, but my recommendations for moral, traditional women are linked to a religious faith and moral code or the world might pull them away.
I like what you write about getting to know the friends and influences. It's important.
I however think that it's essential that every partner (wife and husband) have the right to veto every high-stakes decision. In fact I encourage my partner to please stop me if I try to decide something for the two of us that will bring harm to us or the world.
If you marry a godly, competent woman you should encourage her to use her veto whenever needed. That will make you a better man and the fruit your marriage will wear will be a lot better because two people contributed evenly
Debatable - women are far more risk averse, and can be particularly unnecessarily anxious at times. Thus will veto at times when it’s completely inappropriate to do so. Also forces the question “who is the tiebreaker?” No tiebreaker, no movement.
I asked myself - “Am I preparing my daughter to leave and cleave?” I’m certainly doing my best, but not having this modeled for me, fee like I’m muddling through… we have a really open relationship where we can disagree and still be in relationship- which I am really grate for. Just wondering if I need to be doing more for my 20 something daughter.
I’m 27, no one ever taught me anything about relationships or virtue or God at all, I learnt for myself, but I had to go through the darkness and mud.
If you taught your daughter anything at all about virtue, self-improvement in Christ and courting, and try to prevent short-term relationships and time-wasting etc, then that’s better than what most people get. If she doesn’t listen at least she has something to think about after going through hell; like a lot of us have.
I wish someone told me how important marriage and family is in life and taught me about it. I don’t blame anyone or feel like a victim, I just recognise how beneficial education is from a young age.
If she’s 20 and you’re only just starting to teach about it, it’s probably too late for her to take it on board, but I don’t know all the details and circumstances.
These are just my thoughts.
All the best.
Did my comment “I really recommend that readers check this article against scripture” just get deleted?! Hmmmm
How can you be fully committed to someone who doesn't exist?
Thanks it’s very important to know the parents and friends.
This is why I’m fairly blackpilled. All the good ones are taken. Oh well.